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Sometimes parents just don’t know when to let go, but it’s rare when a judge needs to intervene.That was the case for Aubrey Ireland, a 21-year-old music theater major at College-Conservatory of Music at the University of Cincinnati. She convinced a judge to grant her a restraining order against her parents, David and Julie Ireland.According to the Cincinnati Enquirer, Ireland told the court that despite making the dean’s list, her parents would routinely drive 600 miles from Kansas to Ohio to make unannounced visits to her at school. Then they accused her of illegal drug use, promiscuity and mental illness.Her parents allegedly became so overbearing that they installed keylogging software on her computer and cell phone to keep track of her every move. She told the court, “I was a dog with a collar on.”According to the Cincinnati Enquirer, the school hired security guards to keep them out of their daughter’s performances in school productions. When she cut off all contact with them, her parents responded by stopping payment on tuition checks.Both the school and the court have sided with Aubrey. The University of Cincinnati gave her a full scholarship for her senior year, and the judge issued a civil stalking order against her parents, ordering them to stay at least 500 feet away from her and have no contact with her until September 2013.
Yikes.
In my field, I see it all. I’ve talked about these types of parental situations before. The good, the bad, and the ugly – if you will.
The Good.
These are the parents who are not necessarily abrasive or awkward. They attend campus visits and do admissions interviews with their son or daughter, and they maintain a reasonable distance from the admissions staff.
These are the parents who encourage their student to apply to several schools. These are the parents who let their student call or email the admissions office when they have question.
These are the parents that we like.
The Bad.
These parents are a pain, plain and simple. You can recognize them on a campus visit by their constant questions about safety, meals, dorms, financial aid, average GPA and board scores, or any other subject that is answered quite clearly in the brochure that they are waiving around as they speak. Loudly.
These are the parents who write emails to you on behalf of their son or daughter. Daily. In many cases, they flaunt their child’s positive qualities in and out of the classroom by OVER-USING THE CAPS LOCK.
These are the parents who have their child’s high school counselor call the admissions office to check-up on little Suzy or Johnny’s application status. Regularly.
The Ugly.
These are the parents who take the cake. The ones that inspire blog posts such as this. These are the parents that are the topic of many-a-conversation over drinks following a lousy college fair or at NACAC’s annual conference (here we come Toronto!).
These are the parents who will sit across from your desk with their son or daughter on a college visit and – despite it being a visit for the benefit of their student – never let their child say a word. Mom and dad do all of the talking. They ask all of the questions.
Meanwhile, little Suzy or Johnny sits there with their arms folded.
Then, when it comes time for the application process, the gloves really come off.
These are the parents who happen to be graduates of Blankity Blank University (shout-out to AP), where you work, and they think that calling and emailing will somehow help get Junior an offer of admission to BBU. Additionally, they are not shy about mentioning their alumni status, and how much money they donate to Blankity Blank each year.
These are the parents who write letters of recommendation for their kid. These are the parents who will admit – without the slightest hint of embarrassment – that they filed their child's application for admission.
Lastly, these are the parents who – when little Johnny or Suzy is declined admission – call the President of the Alumni Association. They call the University President. They call their Congressman. They call their Senator. They call the local fire department. They. Call. Everyone.
And of course, it all comes back to you.
Please don’t misunderstand; the vast majority of parents fall under the first category (The Good). However, it is not these parents that those of us in the noble field of college admissions find memorable. Rather, it is the horrible experiences of the latter two categories that tend to stick with us.
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Just thought that I’d get a little braggadocious on you for a minute.

The folks on the social media team in our office have been gracious enough (read: taken the risk) to occasionally lend me the keys to the Undergraduate Admissions Office blog. With a great title, “We Admit”, posts range in subject from traditional first year updates, to international student information, to information about each of Penn State’s 20 undergraduate campuses. We have even gotten some parents of current students involved. They will be adding an interesting point-of-view to the college admissions process.
As for me, I am adding what I have dubbed the “Transfer 101” series to the mix. These are posts that are specifically geared toward prospective transfer students and their unique concerns in the admissions and application processes.
The first and second posts are already up, and I have just added a third that is in the queue of scheduled posts.
So, hit up the above links and leave a comment if you are interested in transferring to Penn State. Or, just because.
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Dartmouth College is all:

High school students hoping to earn college credits through Advanced Placement exams soon will be out of luck at Dartmouth College, which has concluded the tests aren’t as rigorous as its own classes.The Ivy League school currently awards credit in some academic subjects for qualifying scores on Advanced Placement, International Baccalaureate and A-level exams. But after nearly a decade of discussion, faculty recently voted to end the practice starting with the class of 2018.“The concern that we have is that increasingly, AP has been seen as equivalent to a college-level course, and it really isn’t, in our opinion,” said Hakan Tell, a classics professor and chairman of the college’s Committee on Instruction.Dartmouth’s decision comes at a time of rapid growth for Advanced Placement. Some 2 million students took 3.7 million AP tests last spring, figures that have more than doubled in the last decade. In 2011, 18 percent of U.S. high school graduates passed at least one AP exams (by scoring at least a 3 on a scale of 1 to 5), up from 11 percent a decade ago.But the program also has faced criticism that its growing popularity has resulted in watered down courses.“Many high schools have made their AP courses little more than test prep,” said Bob Schaeffer, of FairTest: National Center for Fair & Open Testing. “The common criticism is that they’re a mile wide and a quarter-inch deep.”Dartmouth also still believes AP courses are useful in preparing students for college and will continue to use test scores to help place students in appropriate courses, Tell emphasized, and students who may have wanted to use AP credit to graduate early will have other options. But he pointed to an experiment undertaken by the college’s psychology department as proof that AP courses often fall short.Rather than award credit for an introductory course to incoming students who got the highest score on the AP test, the department gave those students a condensed version of the Dartmouth course’s final exam. Ninety percent failed, Tell said. And when those students went on to take the introductory class, they performed no better than those who did not have the high AP test scores.
I can hear the helicopter parents weeping from here…
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Best. iPhone. Case. Ever.
Thanks to my buddy Jason for hooking me up.
Although, I will admit that I’d rather have the iPhone 5 that he got…
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What did YOU do over the holidays?
We did a LOT of sledding. The video above is my daughter and mother, sledding down a moderate slope at Juniata College (behind Ellis Hall).
Here is a playlist of our other sledding adventures over the holiday break.
I hope you and yours had a splendid time as well!
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Two questions:
1) Does anyone know how to fix a 1st generation iPod? When I try to power up, all I get is the Apple logo for a few seconds, then it just shuts off.
2) Is anyone looking to sell their slightly used iPod to me? I think mine is dead.
Boooo.
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I give you, “T'was The Night Before Holiday Break”.
A couple of colleagues and I came up with this little ditty. That’s Yours Truly narrating. Good times had by all, despite the low production values.
Happy happy. Merry merry.
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Indeed they do.
After a couple of admissions cycles, some will move on to something else, while others will get sucked into the higher education industry for the rest of their careers.“A co-worker of mine once described admissions as a two-or-20 job, meaning you’re either in it for two years or 20 years,” said Matthew Kaberline, who used to work in UMW admissions and recently became the associate director of college counseling at the Severn School in Maryland. “There didn’t seem to be an in between.”The centerpiece of the job is “travel season,” which runs from September to early November. Recruiters hit the suburbs with color-coded calendars and global positioning systems loaded with high school addresses. They rack up loyalty program points at mid-tier hotels, log thousands of miles on rental cars and learn how to hide booze on their expense reports.Between appointments, they wander through shopping malls, search for a Panera with WiFi or dream about how they will someday blow all of these loyalty points on a major vacation. Many of these road warriors become friends. Some drunkenly hook up. A few fall in love.But the lifestyle can be exhausting. The pay can be painfully low. And it can be frustrating for some recruiters, who are figuring out their lives, to deal with high school students who are doing the same thing.
A couple of points on this:
1) I was always told that admissions is a “3-or-30 career”. You’re in it for 3 years then on to something else (usually high school guidance counseling), or you’re in it for 30 years prior to retirement. I’m working on 10-plus and counting – with no sign of departure.
Apparently, I’ve been “sucked” into higher education.
2) I don’t know if I would agree that travel season is the “centerpiece” of the admissions recruiter’s year. But, it is definitely a big part of it.
Back in my travel days, we didn’t have GPS in every car. But, we did “rack-up” the miles in rental cars and “rewards points” at the big hotel chains. No comment on the booze…

[Yeah. That’s me and my babyface, circa 2001 – at the height of my travel glory days.]
3) I made quite a few lasting friends on the road, but I’m proud to say that I never “hooked up” with anyone while traveling (except for my wife who once surprised me at the Atlantic City NACAC National fair by showing up at my hotel).
I do remember the days of being a “road warrior” with a strange fondness. Granted, it was a royal pain for my family life. Unlike many of the “20-somethings” that the article talks about, when I was in my early career I was already married and starting a family. I made every effort to do “out-and-back” visits (as opposed to “overnighters”), but inevitably I would be away from my wife and young child two, three or four nights-per-week.
That said, despite feelings of (extreme) guilt, I did have fun on the road.
Nowadays, I consider myself fortunate to work in a college admissions job that requires almost no recruitment travel. Oh sure, I visit a few local high schools, occasionally visit other Penn State campuses around the Commonwealth, and of course I attend professional development conferences/conventions. But gone are the days of the “road warrior”.
All of that said, I think that I am still finding my own future. You don’t have to be a “20-something” to be continually searching for what you “want to be when you grow up”.
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